Even the most experienced of men may make a
mistake or two in the bedroom from time to time and some end up
fumbling more times than their favorite football team. It's up to you
to keep things interesting and to avoid making sexual errors that
irritate women, so if you steer clear of the following 10 behaviors,
you will be headed toward being the kind of lover that attracts women
like magnets and keeps them coming back for more.
1. Not returning sexual favorsWomen often complain about
men who gladly accept oral pleasuring, but never return the favor.
Being a selfish lover can be an intimacy killer because one partner
cannot be expected to continually please the other while not being
pleasured themselves. Although you
may get incredible sexual gratification from your lover's abilities, just remember that she needs some attention too.
2. Insufficient foreplay
At
one time or another, we've all experienced a moment so passionate
that wasting time on foreplay was unthinkable; however, getting caught
up in the heat of the moment is quite different from pouncing on her
out of nowhere, and cutting straight to the chase on a regular basis.
The thing that makes sex incredible for a woman is
anticipation and being sexually teased, and insufficient foreplay can undermine the entire act of sex. Take your time and master
the art of foreplay in order to drive your woman wild.
3. Being silent and emotionlessWomen
want and NEED strong emotional experiences in bed. Men generally
believe that remaining silent during the sex is a better option than
speaking out what they desire, but if you are not talking during
lovemaking and creating a strong emotional experience for her, she
can't be totally fulfilled. Something as simple as a little moan, or
even saying something like, "That feels so good," will encourage her.
4. Assuming she's satisfiedConcentrating
solely on your own sexual gratification is likely to leave your lover
feeling underwhelmed or unsatisfied once you finish. Just because you
got off, that doesn't mean that she's satisfied. Remember, a good
lover makes the effort to make sure his partner is satisfied before he
is.
5. Lack of groomingWhen
you're in the throes of passion, having your beard stubble brushing
back and forth across her body isn't so sexy. If there's one thing that
turns women off, it's a lover whose personal hygiene isn't up to par.
Keeping yourself clean and properly groomed- especially in the more
intimate corners of your anatomy - is not just a matter of courtesy,
it's a ticket back to the bedroom.
6. Not lasting long enoughThis
mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of mistakes in the
bedroom would be complete without it. You need to have good penile
control to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time. If you
can't control yourself and end up letting go too soon, spend a lot more
time on foreplay. Although it is a debatable topic, most women will be
happy if you can last at least 20 minutes.
7. Ignoring her erogenous zonesMost
women have more erogenous areas than simply her breasts, nipples, and
genitals. Take the time to learn your lover's other “hot” zones,
particularly her neck, shoulders, back, buttocks and feet. Focus on her
entire body. It will turn her on more and, in turn, increase the
chances of her pleasuring you back.
8. Forcing sexual fantasiesMen
often commit the mistake of not respecting a woman’s comfort zone, and
simply expect women to do just about everything in bed to please them.
Most women have an adventurous side and are willing to try new things
in bed once they trust their lover enough. But, if you ever want her
to reach that point with you, the last thing you should do is impose
your sexual desires and fantasies upon her too soon into the
relationship. Remember--real sex is not like sex in adult films, so
always try to introduce new positions and reveal fantasies slowly but
surely.
9. Thinking what works for one woman works for them allMen
often make assumptions about what a woman's wants based upon what
they've done with other women; however, there is a great deal of
variation between what different women like in the bedroom as well as
their own differing levels of experience and confidence. If you have
trouble reading your girlfriend’s responses, there is no harm in asking
her directly what she likes. Even if you feel that you do know what
will
keep her satisfied in bed, constantly giving her a variety of sexual experiences is the fastest way to a varied and fulfilling sex-life.
10. Not kissing her enoughBelieve
it or not, many men don't kiss the woman they're with when they're
having sex -- and that's one of the biggest mistakes to avoid in bed.
Women love being kissed because it makes them feel soft, sexy, beautiful
and adds the romance that they crave.